Therapy for
Self-Esteem
In San Diego— and across California.
Are you tired of being so hard on yourself?
Maybe you’re finding it hard to feel confident in your everyday life. You second-guess your decisions, hesitate to speak up, or shrink your needs to keep the peace in your relationships. Feeling unsure of yourself is exhausting. It can start to affect everything from your daily mood to the choices you make.
You might notice this as:
You leave a social event feeling tense, replaying everything you said. Wondering if you overshared, or if you said something awkward, or if someone misunderstood your tone.
At work, you keep your ideas to yourself. Even when you know they’re good, because a small voice inside tells you they’ll sound stupid, or worse, that you’ll be exposed as not knowing enough.
Even simple decisions feel overwhelming. You weigh every option to death, afraid you’ll choose wrong and regret it. You often find yourself asking others what they think you should do, because trusting your own instincts feels risky. It feels hard to know what you really want.
You say “it’s fine” when it’s not. You ignore your own needs, go along with what others want, and convince yourself their comfort matters more than your own—even when you’re left feeling invisible or resentful.
What if you believed you were enough- just as you are?
Self-trust, self-belief, and self-compassion—they change everything. When you start to feel confident again your relationship to yourself and to important people in your life begins to shift. You increase your capacity to tolerate challenges and the unknown. You feel ready to make clear decisions, you feel ready to move forward in your life with intention.
Here’s how we can get there:
Identify root causes of your low self-esteem so that you gain awareness and feel a sense of agency over this part of your life.
Increase self-compassion and an ability to hold and connect to all parts of yourself with a sense of acceptance. Learning how to resist and soften your inner critic.
Allow for alignment and congruence around values, identity, relationships and decisions for the present and future. So you can feel ease and confidence, really knowing youself as you actively engage in your life.
Through therapy, you can begin to:
Make decisions based on your needs, not just what others expect.
Stop over-apologizing and second-guessing yourself.
Speak to yourself with compassion. Soften your inner critic.
Start taking action with more confidence and ease.
You can learn to see yourself with more compassion, and step into the life you want.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Self-esteem therapy often includes identifying unhelpful thought patterns, learning to challenge the inner critic, practicing self-compassion, and building confidence through small, consistent changes in how you relate to yourself and others.
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Everyone’s journey is different, but many people begin to notice changes within a few months. The process is gradual, and it builds on small moments of insight, growth, and practice over time.
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Yes. Even if low self-esteem has been a lifelong struggle, therapy offers a space to understand where these beliefs came from, and more importantly how to shift them. Change is absolutely possible.
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